Thursday, July 21, 2016

Do Your Relationships Have Balance?

Are you one of those people who who checks your bank account's balance everyday? Or are you like me, I spend hoping there is a enough in the account to cover the swipe. lol no lol. Relationships , no matter the type or title, are a lot like bank accounts, there is a balance of deposits and withdrawals.


The balance is what is most importation being it is a reflection of the activity, recent and past, in the account ("relationship"). The deposits are positives accepted and applied to the balance, while withdrawals are taking away from that balance often viewed as negatives. If I make more and larger deposits than withdrawals, my account is healthy and growing, indicators of a positive relationship.
Adversely, if a person taking out more than they are putting in, it will yield negative statements.


Let's delve a little deeper and address other terms such as direct deposits and automatic withdrawals.   What would you consider as direct deposits in a relationship???

Let's propose that you are Christian and you attend service weekly; think that would be a direct deposit? What about waking up daily to your spouse and greeting him or her with a kiss and a smile? Or regularly scheduled outing or event with someone you hold an account with? Got you brain going? I think my daily routine of meditation, yoga, journaling and reading is mine... when there is some "technical difficulty" keeping that deposit to made into my being definitely makes a difference
in my balance.



Now let us consider automatic withdrawals. When I think of this idiom, what immediately comes to mind is the time and energy spend or love we give unconsciously. For example, if you are a housewife, you think nothing of getting up to feed the family and ensuring everyone has what they need and want. If you are a father, you may not contemplate how your going to work to provide for your family is both debiting from your personal "account" and contributing to the positive balance in your families lives.

So next time you encounter a "negative" person, keep in mind that person may be operating with "insufficient funds" and don't need to incur any additional charges and penalties from you. If you don't mind doing me  a favor, next time you recognize a person battling an overdrawn account, make a deposit of love.

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