Help Wanted

“You can only help people how they desire to be helped and in a way that you feel comfortable helping…anything else is resistance.” -JWP

I have always prided myself on being a helper, a helpmate. Often on my journey I have met lots of resistance from my helpees. Its frustrating! Like dammit I AM trying to help you, what’s your  problem? We often wonder why someone doesn’t or won’t accept the help (we deem) they need. 

There’s a multitude of reasons why someone may not accept assistance. Very often Ego is the culprit. Ego is the one that usually heads up the conscious thinking we do, basing its perception on past experiences, assumptions and judgments. The judgement can be against themselves or the one offering help. Ego makes a person think, Why do you want to help me? What’s in it for you?  You think you’re better than me? or I’m grown. I’m supposed to do this on my on. I don't wanna have to hear about this later. 

And on the other side of the coin is when you decide to help someone and they take your helping them to another level. I guess it's the old cliché , "give a person an inch, they take a yard." You know you offer to help a lil, next thing you know a person has dropped all their responsibilities in your lap. Now you're overwelmed and no longer feeling good about helping, feeling like you wish you never got involved. So what happened, and what do you do now???

We have to be clear about is what we are we are willing and capable of doing to help someone. And when it is our turn to receive help, let's not allow ego to step in the middle of things. Open your mind and self to receive the help that is being provided. Both parties should feel some level of comfort and satisfaction. Until next timemy friends, be happy, be haelthy, be you. I LOVE YOU!!!