BEST COUPLE EVER: Love & Money

The simplest form of the law of attraction is get happy, get laid and paid. Napoleon Hill wrote "The emotion of love, in the human heart and brain, creates a favorable field of magnetic attraction, which causes an influx of the higher and finer vibrations..." Two things that most people desire in life are love and money. 

The Bible taught me that a man who finds a wife, finds favor with God. (Prov 18:22) Im sure Abraham Lincoln would agree with that. His career didn't take thought until he met the love of his life, Ann Rutledge. Come to think of it, have we ever had a president that wasn't married? I don't know any successful CEO who is not married, even if it is just on paper. No empire is complete without a empress. I believe no empire can be built without a mastermind team, usually husband and wife. There is no President Obama without Michelle. Without mentioning Bonnie, who is Clyde? I don't discriminate. Success is success.  Attend any banquet where a man is being honored and I bet 95% will give credit to their wives.

Money and Love go together like peanut butter and jelly. Either a man has to get money with me, give it to me or put me in position to get it. I've always said is romance without finance is nonsense.We all know that money troubles are the biggest burden on any relationship, especially a marriage. Suntrust did a survey which revealed that 35 percent of the people surveyed admitted that money was the cause of their relationship stress. I do not care to be apart of that group.

I am more of a Happily Ever After kinda a gal. I believe in fairytales. I believe in the law of attraction. However, I will confess when I used to think I had to make a choice. Either have the career of my dreams and make a whole lot of money or have a man. I figured my being an A-type woman, I am already intimidating enough as it is. If I'm caked up, men would shy from me even more. I imagined that my personality would be amplified and I'd become one those women who feel like they don't need a man. I can have, will have, and must have the money and man.

One last thing, in my research I learned that way we treat money is usually how we treat our boo. With both money and people our relationships are emotional. Which brings us back to the law of attraction that teaches us to that being positive vibration, feeling good about that which we desire, allows it come. We'll talk more about the law of attraction later.

In the meantime and in between time, be happy, be healthy, be you! I LOVE YOU!

Confusion Brings Clarity

Confusion brings clarity... I recently dated a guy that had me in a daze, Rem. My friends couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. They're used to a pitbull in a skirt, whose all about business, phuck negus. So for me to talk and act all lovey dovey, was totally out of character for me. Some were excited for me and others were like “Where's Mimi...Earth to Mimi???" My people who knew Rem were like "Are you sure about this?" I thought I was sure and I was committed. However this guy obviously had a slew of issues that had nothing to do with me... I'll give him credit for saying so. Nonetheless, I was treated haphazardly and felt undervalued. I remember when he said “If you ever run, I'll run faster, we're together forever." He broke up with me twice!  It was like, all of sudden he wanted me in the box I have successfully stayed out of the majority of my life. And my blind, deaf & dumb in-love ass was ready to jump in, for the sake of what I believed was genuine love that was perfectly aligned, for the sake of the end result we desired; I'm a team player. The indicators lights were on, but I kept riding...What can I say? I’m ride or die; any guy I've dated, my friends and family will confirm, that. 

In this experience I grew as a person.  See, I was capable of loving, just not willing to let an outsider in the fort. So, I was proud of myself for being involved to monogamist, committed relationship. What I realized was the previous relationship opened me to that possibility. I was hanging with Uncle Frank again, it wasn’t serious nor exclusive, but I found myself desiring such after while. At the time, not sure if I just wanted him in particular, or a relationship in general. In that confusion of thoughts and emotions, it was clear what type of relationship is for me, what elements mattered, and what was no longer serving my needs. In that moment of clarity, I decided to discontinue business and personal with him because I realized that I wanted to be with one man who want to be with just me. When I returned to Florida, I cut off my sugar daddy and anyone else I knew did not fit the bill of my true desires. In the midst of learning what we don’t want, clarity comes about what we do desire. Furthermore, when you know what you want, you have to prepare and position yourself for it. The running back has to be in position when the quarterback launches that rock. 

When you find yourself in a confused state of mind or a tumultuous situation, pay attention to what feels good and what doesn’t. In lies the key to clearly define your desires. And always remember what you whole heartedly desire, desires you. Until next time, be happy, be healthy, and be you. I love you!

I don't know

Happy NEW Year World!

I didn't have a title because I wasn't sure what I was going to write. I have not written in months. I think because my personal life got screwy. I have this famous sermon of not having sex with people you don't feel comfortable being your child's parent (babymama or babydaddy). I was reminded the other day when my lil cousin said that my guy's mom would be my babydaddy. And she was right! What was I thinking? What was I and am I doing? I was with this guy last night. We both ended up at Miro's, I figured he may be there but it wasn't a concern of mine really. I just wanted to go out with my new gf (yeah I done flip da script) and have some fun. You know, show out a lil bit. Anywhew...I had decided to leave Uncle Frank in the old year. I really can't figure out why I continue with his cat. Only conclusion I have come up with is that I not only love this guy, but maybe Im in-love with him, whether I like it or not. Hell whether he likes it or not, because as I've mentioned before he likes to pretend we are not an item. I am not interested in being a closet-bitch. Many people in our circle find it quite entertaining that we don't claim to be in a relationship. Sometimes I wonder if I could be trying to conquer this relationship or am just obsessed. I dont know what's up.

I do not like feeling like I don't know. I love awareness. Last night I told Uncle Frank that ALL I ask is to be aware. There is no reason to lie or hide shit. I am very opened minded. I've dated married men for the past 7-8 years. Im used to being girlfriend #2. But now Im too old for that shit. And I need to keep in mind anyone I sleep with is a potential babydaddy, unless he is a she. lol!

I dont know how my lil 1 feels about me being with a girl, but I can tell it bothers her. Im happy. So what am I to do? I wholeheartedly understand this life is not about me, but I have harbored these feeling for far too long without action. I was curious and here I am. My grammy is married to a woman. So this isnn't too new to either of us. My mom didn't like Grammy's preference and held it against her since I was a teenager.

My life is swarming with I DONT KNOWS right now. But please believe I'm finna figure some shit out and take action. I dont know when you will here from me again, but be safe holla back!

Love. Peace. & Music!

[Miss]UNDERSTOOD Mimi

Just Married

Hey Guys,

I was thinking about people who are married, but not married. I guess how I have been dating a guy I'm not-dating. Thats so funny to me. (If you don't know what I am talking about read yesterdays blog.) Anywho back to these so-called married folk. First, we have my father who has been married twenty years but been planning a divorce for about 10-15 of those years, until this year. Now he's decided to chalk it up and keep her around. So they act more like friends and roomates than anything. Sometimes they sleep in the same bed, but you hardly see them interact. Then there's my beautiful aunt who lives in a big beautiful house, has a beautiful husband and sleeps in a big beautiful king-sized bed, alone. Her husband sleeps down the hall. They haven't slept together in ten years. TEN YEARS! But when you see them together they act like a happily married couple. wtf?

So yesterday I was talking to my cousin; she took note of how me and Uncle Frank* work together like a married couple. Everything looks and operates like we have been doing this for years. Well, we did do it for everyday for a few months. My lil girl was gone for the summer, so it was nothing to stay at his house everyday. If I tried to leave, he'd act like puppy dog. "Where you going?" "Why you can't just sleep here?" "Why you gotta go home?" How can you tell a cute lil thirty-EIGHT year-old no with that baby look in his eye no? Im a sucka for a kid. I was telling my cousin thats how it was before verse two of "A Little Bit" except we were intimate then.

OMG! This fool started holding my hand last night while were watching TV. I was like what is this about? Then he dropped my hand with the quickness when my lil girl started coming down the hallway. I almost died on the inside it was funny. I had to call my cousin and tell her about that. Oh then this morning he wanna spoon and shit. What is this not-dating relationship coming to?

Well, I am going to Bible Study today. I hope the speaker don't be lookin at me today. He's married and I vowed to leave these married men alone. How will I ever have a respectable marriage if I don't ever respect the institution of marriage. I have one guy who is seperated that I dated last winter. I told him I can't be in a relationship with him because he is not available to marry me. I am getting to an age where I do not need to be courting for sex or temporal needs/wants. I need to be courting for marriage. And at the moment I feel I cannot be married to a person I need to roll on. Do I see myself possibly marrying the guy Im not-dating, Uncle Frank? I don't know. Like I've said before, we work well together as a household, the two of us and the three of our children. I can't say. I never intended to be in this position or the previous with this guy. Plus, I am supposed to be marrying this guy thats incarcerated. My father is gun-ho about me and this guy. Niether of us hold this season against him. We'll talk about that in a later post.

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[Miss}underSTOOD

The guy I'm not-dating...

Mornin World,

dis-claimer- Please do not be offended. There is reference to religion. I cuss, curse, swear, whatever you prefer to call it. Bless those who r offended.
*nouns- people, places, things and situations. (you'll need that later)

So, I'm staying with this guy that I'm "not dating." We have been "not dating" since like April. Damn, that's like six months! We were just hanging out at first; it was suppose to be on some business shit. We met some years ago thru his friend that i kinda used to date. But like a lot of men in my business world, he started liking me, which blurs shit. I am a very attractive lady, true enough, but I am a lady about my business. I wanna make money, not whoopy. We made whoopy, no money. Now we both broke. But anyways, he invited me and my lil girl to come stay with him until I got my house winterized. At the moment I was like "naw, I'm cool," but then a couple of days later I thought about some other benefits of staying there. For one its less stuff to distract me from my work. Two, it may be more comfortable for my lil girl. I can't expect her to weather the storm because of me and my inadequecies. That night, I prayed about it and ask the LORD to make me more dependent upon him. Make me more dependent...OMG! what was I thinking?! Oh Lord, what are you going to do now???

See the big G works a little differently than most think. You say make me stronger, he puts more weight on you (like any strengthening coach would do). You ask to be more patient, he makes you wait longer. So I asked to be more dependent and... my lights were cut off by eight o'clock the next morning. Not due to lack of payment, but due to someone attempting to exercise power over me. Needless to say I was not financially prepared for such an episode. Fortunately, I was in the midst of praying when Mr. Electric Man clipped da lights, building up my spirit for the day. I felt it was going to be a doozy, but it wasn't. I had already decided to give the Creator glory in all situations.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. (Prov 3:5-6)

Some nouns* are not for us to understand rather for us accept, as-is. Don't you hate the term "as-is"? Its like you know something is going to be fucked up before you go forth with the decision. Think about that it means that you may have to adjust or adapt. It's easy to go with the flow, but can you roll with the punches?

At this point me and the guy I'm not-dating are not dating. We merely share space. We are not the business partners he likes to say we are. However, he still likes for me to play with Peter. He won't play with Pearl. And Peter and Pearl are not allowed to play together via both of our better judgement. wddd@? #killyoself! Did I mention he will only sleep in the bed if I sleep in the bed. I once told him before I was just his nightelight and coffeemaker. Check out the link; it's Drake w/Lykke Li- A little bit. It totally personifies the course of our relationship. Life is interesting. The seasons that come to pass. *smh* Thank God ALL seasons come to an end. And thats whats important. No matter what situation you are in, it's for a season and it will come to an end.

Love. Peace. & Hairgrease with you,

-[Miss]underSTOOD
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