BEST COUPLE EVER: Love & Money

The simplest form of the law of attraction is get happy, get laid and paid. Napoleon Hill wrote "The emotion of love, in the human heart and brain, creates a favorable field of magnetic attraction, which causes an influx of the higher and finer vibrations..." Two things that most people desire in life are love and money. 

The Bible taught me that a man who finds a wife, finds favor with God. (Prov 18:22) Im sure Abraham Lincoln would agree with that. His career didn't take thought until he met the love of his life, Ann Rutledge. Come to think of it, have we ever had a president that wasn't married? I don't know any successful CEO who is not married, even if it is just on paper. No empire is complete without a empress. I believe no empire can be built without a mastermind team, usually husband and wife. There is no President Obama without Michelle. Without mentioning Bonnie, who is Clyde? I don't discriminate. Success is success.  Attend any banquet where a man is being honored and I bet 95% will give credit to their wives.

Money and Love go together like peanut butter and jelly. Either a man has to get money with me, give it to me or put me in position to get it. I've always said is romance without finance is nonsense.We all know that money troubles are the biggest burden on any relationship, especially a marriage. Suntrust did a survey which revealed that 35 percent of the people surveyed admitted that money was the cause of their relationship stress. I do not care to be apart of that group.

I am more of a Happily Ever After kinda a gal. I believe in fairytales. I believe in the law of attraction. However, I will confess when I used to think I had to make a choice. Either have the career of my dreams and make a whole lot of money or have a man. I figured my being an A-type woman, I am already intimidating enough as it is. If I'm caked up, men would shy from me even more. I imagined that my personality would be amplified and I'd become one those women who feel like they don't need a man. I can have, will have, and must have the money and man.

One last thing, in my research I learned that way we treat money is usually how we treat our boo. With both money and people our relationships are emotional. Which brings us back to the law of attraction that teaches us to that being positive vibration, feeling good about that which we desire, allows it come. We'll talk more about the law of attraction later.

In the meantime and in between time, be happy, be healthy, be you! I LOVE YOU!

Confusion Brings Clarity

Confusion brings clarity... I recently dated a guy that had me in a daze, Rem. My friends couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me. They're used to a pitbull in a skirt, whose all about business, phuck negus. So for me to talk and act all lovey dovey, was totally out of character for me. Some were excited for me and others were like “Where's Mimi...Earth to Mimi???" My people who knew Rem were like "Are you sure about this?" I thought I was sure and I was committed. However this guy obviously had a slew of issues that had nothing to do with me... I'll give him credit for saying so. Nonetheless, I was treated haphazardly and felt undervalued. I remember when he said “If you ever run, I'll run faster, we're together forever." He broke up with me twice!  It was like, all of sudden he wanted me in the box I have successfully stayed out of the majority of my life. And my blind, deaf & dumb in-love ass was ready to jump in, for the sake of what I believed was genuine love that was perfectly aligned, for the sake of the end result we desired; I'm a team player. The indicators lights were on, but I kept riding...What can I say? I’m ride or die; any guy I've dated, my friends and family will confirm, that. 

In this experience I grew as a person.  See, I was capable of loving, just not willing to let an outsider in the fort. So, I was proud of myself for being involved to monogamist, committed relationship. What I realized was the previous relationship opened me to that possibility. I was hanging with Uncle Frank again, it wasn’t serious nor exclusive, but I found myself desiring such after while. At the time, not sure if I just wanted him in particular, or a relationship in general. In that confusion of thoughts and emotions, it was clear what type of relationship is for me, what elements mattered, and what was no longer serving my needs. In that moment of clarity, I decided to discontinue business and personal with him because I realized that I wanted to be with one man who want to be with just me. When I returned to Florida, I cut off my sugar daddy and anyone else I knew did not fit the bill of my true desires. In the midst of learning what we don’t want, clarity comes about what we do desire. Furthermore, when you know what you want, you have to prepare and position yourself for it. The running back has to be in position when the quarterback launches that rock. 

When you find yourself in a confused state of mind or a tumultuous situation, pay attention to what feels good and what doesn’t. In lies the key to clearly define your desires. And always remember what you whole heartedly desire, desires you. Until next time, be happy, be healthy, and be you. I love you!

Help Wanted

“You can only help people how they desire to be helped and in a way that you feel comfortable helping…anything else is resistance.” -JWP

I have always prided myself on being a helper, a helpmate. Often on my journey I have met lots of resistance from my helpees. Its frustrating! Like dammit I AM trying to help you, what’s your  problem? We often wonder why someone doesn’t or won’t accept the help (we deem) they need. 

There’s a multitude of reasons why someone may not accept assistance. Very often Ego is the culprit. Ego is the one that usually heads up the conscious thinking we do, basing its perception on past experiences, assumptions and judgments. The judgement can be against themselves or the one offering help. Ego makes a person think, Why do you want to help me? What’s in it for you?  You think you’re better than me? or I’m grown. I’m supposed to do this on my on. I don't wanna have to hear about this later. 

And on the other side of the coin is when you decide to help someone and they take your helping them to another level. I guess it's the old cliché , "give a person an inch, they take a yard." You know you offer to help a lil, next thing you know a person has dropped all their responsibilities in your lap. Now you're overwelmed and no longer feeling good about helping, feeling like you wish you never got involved. So what happened, and what do you do now???

We have to be clear about is what we are we are willing and capable of doing to help someone. And when it is our turn to receive help, let's not allow ego to step in the middle of things. Open your mind and self to receive the help that is being provided. Both parties should feel some level of comfort and satisfaction. Until next timemy friends, be happy, be haelthy, be you. I LOVE YOU!!! 

Unphuck Your Self!

In the story of the Prodigal Son, (Luke 15:11-32) it says "he came to himself.." Where did his Self go? 

What happened was Self was present but Ego was reigning supreme. It is ego that affords you to judge yourself and others, not recognizing that those we encounter are mere reflections of us. Do not allow external noise to drown out the voice of Spirit, cloud your vision or influence to dilute the very essence of your being. You are a being of Light and Love. You are made of stardust dammit! LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE! 

Phuck the nay-sayers, discouraging loved ones and haters (who really envy you). Encourage yourself and encourage your Self to rightfully claim position as Captain of your ship. We as humans are blessed with an inner guidance system that if turned on, and tuned in, will perfectly direct us to our desired Self and physical manifestations. So whomever or whatever happened that convinced you not be You....forget all of that. Forgive the the people. Forgive yourself. Forgive God. REMEMBER your greatness! Remember who you were and are. Remember what you are still capable of being and doing. If people don't receive you in all your luster, let their dull azzes fade away...

Until next time lovebugs.... I BELIEVE THAT WE WILL WIN!

p.s. Watch this video real quick... I Believe We Will Win by Mimi Leut